How to be the Perfect Imperfect Parent.
July 14, 2020
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When my daughters were born, I was determined to be the “Perfect Parent”. I was going to take time and really listen to them. I was going to encourage the behavior I wanted instead of punishing the behavior I didn’t. I was going to do everything in my power to make sure they grew up well-balanced and able to handle what life threw their way.
It wasn’t too long after they were born that I realized the job of rearing another human was far from easy. After a hard day, with minimal sleep, hungry, and being asked for a million things all at the same time, my ability to react kindly and patiently went out the window.
“I’M ONLY ONE PERSON!”,
I would yell when they would both ask me questions at the same time I was throwing in a load of laundry, letting the dog out, and starting dinner. Not the best way to respond.
I would be reminded of my imperfections at parenting when I would see the way my friend Michelle parented her kids. She never seemed to raise her voice, at least not when anyone was around.
Her method made me aware of how I was reacting and handling situations, especially in public. Through her example, me becoming aware of my behavior, and my willingness to change, I became a more conscious parent.
Fast forward 20 years. All of our kids grew up to be kind, giving, caring adults. What I realized looking back is that there is no such thing as the Perfect Parent. We are all doing our best. Being conscious of our imperfections allows us to strive to be better. And what a great example to show our kids…how to be perfectly imperfect.
Sending You Much Love & Laughter
Amy & Sittah
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